Regardless of the situation, you are in. Always be calm and alert. It is with a clear and calm mind that one can have a clear and concise decision about whatever that you are doing. Easy to say but difficult to execute – Many may say. It takes time and eventually time will create this vacuum of space where you can resolve your issue and come to a consensus with your mind.
If staying away from social media helps, then do it. Be positive and talk to people who are positive. They will always shed a light or rub some positivity of some sort. Remember that only with challenges and struggles, will you grow and nurture to your potential. Struggling is part of life and it is also the wonder of life as it allows one to realise, slow things down and think about many things. The power of manifestation has been in the talks for many years. First of all, you have to believe in it, then you manifest with the thought and finally the mentality. These are the powers of being able to think clearly.
With distractions out of the way, then things can work out. No matter how many baby steps, how much is the disappointment or expectation. It is a roller-coaster of events. There are things we all should say no to more often than not.
Naturally, we are all emotional human beings. That makes us what we are so you did not do anything wrong. I am not a great fan of social media. I don’t see it as a way to catch up with what my friends are doing. If it is my family, I would happily call or meet them, not follow their social media accounts.
Time will heal and will find a solution. It is a process that is daunting. If you are feeling it, you are not alone. Baby steps at a time. Meanwhile, find things that interest or helps your own growth. It may fuel into something great one day.
Life is very different for everyone. Every nook and cranny is different for each one of us. Eventually, that moulded all of us very differently. (i.e. How do we react to certain situations? How we seemingly lose common sense at certain things. With those things in mind, we can then empathise with others in their situation. While we may focus on how others are lacking, in the same sense we also need to be patient with others.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of looking at others and as always the grass is greener on the other side. (Until you reach the other side) Let me just sum it up. Only a small proportion of people get it lucky, they get the best of both worlds – What is rosy is also what is the true portrayal of their lives. The rest of them is living the beautiful lie (It doesn’t always come easy)
I can only speak from my own experience and while things were rosy. I had the opportunity to enjoy work and make good money while doing so. So, many times I try to look toward others with more empathy. Managing your own expectations is the hardest and because we all have our own aspirations, it often leads to less than expected results. However, we should always hold our heads high. Bite the bullet and move on. Sometimes pacing, slowing down before searing forward again. Easier said than done.
All of us are different and I do implore that no one look at other portfolios at 1 million, 500k or 250k at an envious level. Rather, look at things from a goal perspective and practicality. After all, everyone’s starting point is different. Look toward the end goal. Never give up and remember it is never too late to start.
One have to manage yourself as well as manage your own expectation. Every situation is different. Sometimes just purely managing time and break is not sufficient. We are built this way, some stronger than the other but lacking in other atrributes. Similar to thr concept of there are no perfect systems, there are no perfect human being. Behind the scenes, do you not think that those who seem fine has it easy too?
It is very similar to investing where everyone’s starting point is different. Today, I am lucky to have additional funds to explore and invest. Some may have just start while others may be struggling with debts or even many other issues.
I am glad I had basic financial knowledge and I understand some thing better than others.
Don’t see it as a hind or head start. It always start with an idea or a dollar. Be confident, no one else should tell you how you should be.
Remember you are not alone. Find support and community that are of like-mindedness
Today, I’m going to go straight out and talk about Mental well-being and why DIY investing is related to it. Personal Finance is a wide topic. Some people talk about it passionately while other talk about it in monetary terms. If you come across my blog about how I view investing and personal finance. It would always bow down to one thing. You need to look at it long term (30-40-50 years).
My last post was on 15 Jan 2022. It was a new year and new resolutions but who knew that I was hit with reality and I got a little depressed. I’m quite the jovial and joker kind of guy so it is hard to see me depressed for a prolonged period. But I realised that I needed to get away for a short while. While this happened to make myself well a number of events happened and it was all unexpected. After all these has tide over. I found time to talk about this, write it down as a form of content as well.
Many things happen to our lives.
a. Triggering events
This is a wide scope. It can affect family members, jobs, health and other financial events
b. Illness/Sickness that spread from friends to friends and family to family.
This affects family the most. The support from the extended family and who take care of your kids while you grind at work
c. Your own well-being
Of the three items, I find that your own well-being determines who you are and what you want to become. Whether you like it or not, triggering events happens without any warnings. Sickness and illness happens mostly without much time to react. While all these happen, it is important to keep your own spirits up. What you do and say eventually is the outcome of how you treat yourself.
I’m no expert at this but if you do realise you need help. Look for professional help. With the option of working from home, it limits the interaction or distraction with colleagues, friends and family members. It makes one feels inwards towards approaching people. For people who realise it, it is a positive sign. For people who doesn’t, then it makes it tricky.
Now, here comes the key part to this article. When you are down and out, nothing interests you anymore. This includes your own investment portfolio and personal interests. However, there are things that will keep you going (i.e. kids, ferrying the kids, family and etc..) This will make you go at minimum pace. What if this distraction goes on for a year? Often, I hear many friends (Who thinks that they are Warren Buffet and I don’t blame them) say that why pay fees. These are for people who doesn’t know what they are doing.
Let’s look back and ponder on what we just discussed. If you DIY your own investing portfolio and you leave it under the bus for a long time. What will happen to your own portfolio? I will leave the answer to yourself because everyone is different. I’m not saying that paying exorbitant fees is the answer to this. There are many solutions to these and some of these include letting a robo-advisor manage your own portfolio. While you take time to find your own wellness and recover your motivations. No one run their lives in adrenaline until old age. There’s always peak and troughs like every investing period. Pace it out and find things that matter the most to you.
I’ll make this short but will probably do it in a three part format because I really find it important that what if one day (touch wood) something really happens to you. I’m not sure what everyone invests in but I dabble in a bit of a crypto defi and multiple platforms to maximum my exposure and benefits. I’m not sure if my family member can pick up the pieces to recover every cents of my investments should anything happen to me. I’ll remember my own passwords once I see how I algorithmically encrypt it. I can’t say the same for my family members.
Stop sweating on the small stuff. a 0.5% or 1% fee on your portfolio buys you nothing but a piece of mind. All you need to do is to research for a reliable and honest company that can do the work for you. Review them from time to time to make sure they are still relevant to your own investing philosophies. For star traders who are often right than wrong. Think about the day when your hands doesn’t work quite that fast as your brain is thinking. Income is important to everyone so transfer your risk and sometimes paying a little more works out better.
Till the next blog. Great weekend ahead.
This is not a sponsored post. This is purely what I write about because I generally have a passion towards learning and spreading personal finance. There is no one size fits all investment strategy. I do not have any affiliation to any robo-advisors or company nor do I get any perks other than a referral fee.
Life is very strange. It can be tough for some, easy for others. Sometimes smooth sailing while some have to ride heavy waves for extended period of time. Covid-19 has not been great to many people and companies globally. This also pretty much sums up the cashflow situation most companies are when the economy shuts down for months. The typical companies who are in debt are just simply living on future money, future growth and future prospects. Never touch those companies.
Life has a lot uncertainties but these should not be the decisions you make in your life. Life will also give you a fair share of knocks but these knocks when looking back ensures that these formulate and set you up for the future. It is actually kind if you look back in that way however at the very moment that things happen, it isn’t easy to take.
Personally, I do understand how it feels and it is totally fine to feel dejected, upset and even cry about it. Immerse into the whole dejection and slump but don’t drag that out for too long. It is equally important to pick up and build the self confidence from scratch.
Your plans will change. Your ideas will fail and things will not fall in the way you want it to be. Truth be told, that is reality. The world starts dropping on you and the worries start formulating in a strange way. Whatever the situation is – It is a setback and you need time to recover. Be it one month, one year for 2 years – that is a process that everyone have to go through. It strengthens your resolve and makes your mind work so much harder.
The first step is the dismay and anger. Get it through thoroughly and do not withhold. The next step is actually crucial – your own support group. Your family, your parents, your friends, your spouse, your extended family. This is also the time when you will start to realise who you can depend on. Some friendships will be lost while new ones will be developed. The support group is important to keep the sanity going.
Step number 3 is the recovery part and at times, mood will change from step 1 to 3 but that is not a step back but a step forward because there is a plan to go ahead. Regardless you like it or not, you will have to accept it and move ahead. The important thing is to push ahead. At this point in time, confidence can be at a all time low and you will definitely know what you need and what you don’t need.
Many times, when you feel that the world has fallen right in front of you. You are not alone and it happens to many people. No one likes to share to tell you the bad things. After all, everyone really just tell you the positive and optimistic stuffs. Social norms say you can’t say but I beg to differ on that view. I’ll say, it is better to speak your mind than keep it under a smile or silence.
I can’t say that this is a good feeling but it is indeed a humbling experience. It can be a time to rethink and/or reevaluate.
It will not happen
Most often, things happen at the most unexpected moments. I often hear people say things like this will not happen. These companies are too big to fail. These are the monopolies or even “My plan is …..” Well, I would say that who knew Covid will actually be a global impact to our livelihoods. The thing is really never say never. Humans are forgetful but these setbacks brings you back to the ground. When you struggle to find a solution, the struggle makes everyone resilient. We are only resilient when you experience hardship.
What is impacting is that being a majority middle-class, we are all sandwiched-class. Being financially savvy brings your step out of the sandwich class. A close friend of mine once said that your best gift to your child is getting your own retirement plan ready. I reflected on that statement multiple times and it is true to a certain extent:
a. It is intangible and your child will never be able to understand it until their later stages of life
b. Being financially free and getting ready for retirement gives less stress on your kids as compared to now when you are sandwiched between the seniors and your young ones.
c. By getting ready for retirement, you will eventually also prepare for your child’s education. This is reality and it is real. Imagine contribution CPF to your child’s account and compounding at an early age. This kick start their beginning where most of us either started too late or had to little to begin with.
The purpose of this is really to gain some awareness about personal finance and how important it is over the longer term. You have to know what you have or what you don’t in order to cover what you are lacking.
As each and everyone of us are different, if you are in difficult times. Don’t worry, it will pass and something better will come by. You may or may not see it now but it will be better as time goes by. Health is important so take care of your own well-being and be mentally stronger over time.
Sustain, maintain and grow your wealth. There is no rush as baby steps are the ones which brings you confidence. Each time, you fall as a kid, you just got to get back up. Similar with your own investments (Be it personal investments or monetary investments) every step of the way is an experience. No one said that it was easy. Tough knocks makes you a better person and let you make better future choices.
If you like what you are seeing, do remember to check they out and do your diligence. There is no one size fits all investment strategy.
Able to write and share is my main objective is to create a community and blogging what I want to do. Being mentally well and put down content is something I always wanted to do. Trying out new things will definitely bring one’s horizon to a different level.